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Dear Jennifer,

I said what I said.

Jennifer, I first want to thank you for taking the time out to check out my blog. Actually, I am unsure if you did or not but I am going to take a shot in the dark and believe that you did. You saw that my blog was marketed towards Black women and then you and your privilege felt left out, I guess. You wrote on my blog’s Facebook page and said “Why can’t it be for all women? Why the separation?” Well, Jenny, let me provide you first with some context on Black women to ease your curiosity.

You see Jenny, although I highly encourage everyone to read my blog posts and feel empowered, I chose my target audience as Black women for a reason. Black women are the most disenfranchised, disrespected, yet envied group of people in this country. Let’s take a flashback to slavery really fast. While Black women cleaned and labored to take care of you and massa’, they would return home at night and be nurturers to their children-while they still had the opportunity to be. Black women raised your children. Black women had to watch while their massa’ tried to emasculate their sons and husbands right before their eyes…while you sat and watched in amusement. Black women had to suffer in silence while their massa’ raped them and used their bodies as sexual objects. Black women had to sit and watch you abuse and disrespect their biracial children because you were jealous.


Jen Jen, as a white woman, you don’t have to wake up and think about being white on a daily basis because everything in this country was designed to protect you. Black men have been killed and/or sent to jail because of lies white women have told on them (rest in power to Emmett Till). You can walk on a predominantly white college campus and not have to worry about if there are spaces for you. You can give birth to a white child and the hospitals will ensure you have the best care provided for you. Black women, we bare the burden of telling the doctors what we need them to do for us and birthing the “wrong” children into the country (Patricia Hill Collins, 2000). You don’t have to think about how your race and your gender intersect on a daily basis. For example, if you get mad, no one is going to question you and label you as an angry white woman. Me, on the other hand, all I have to do is frown and I automatically have an attitude and I’m angry.

Jen, not all heroes wear capes. Black women, we are heroes. Katherine Johnson, Dorothy Vaughan, and Mary Jackson sent people to space using mathematics. Henrietta Lacks’ cancer cells were stolen from her in 1951 and were used to revolutionize medicine to this day. Lena Waithe won an Emmy for telling her coming out story to set a precedence of the need for Black Queer women to be represented. Black women own businesses, write books, sing, dance, and take care of everyone else all while still holding on to our crowns. We watch women like the Kardashian/Jenners and Rachel Dozal appropriate us. White women get to steal our hair styles and our vernacular, make millions off it, and Black women are still looked at as less than. Viola Davis in all her glory and Queen Mo’Nique are asking to be paid fair wages for the work that they do and still, people believe they don’t deserve it. Regular Black women like myself, are disrespected by white men in positions of power because they question our competence levels. We are told not to be sexual beings and be sexually free because society will label us as “hos, thots, runners”.  

Writer, Producer, Actor Lena Waithe and Me
Henrietta Lacks, Image obtained from Google Images

J, until white women are comfortable talking about intersectionality when it comes to gender and race in the conversation about feminism, then I don’t see why you believe everything has to be for “all women”. We have created our own spaces for healing so when we are in spaces for “all” people, we can make an effort to navigate them.

You see how throughout this letter I took letters from your name as if I was stripping away at your identity? That’s the same way how you tried to “All Lives Matter” the target audience of MY blog. So, again to answer your questions, “Why can’t it be for all women? Why the separation?” Black women undeniably need to be protected at all costs, and I chose to do that via my platform.


With love and Black Pride,

The Editor-in-Chief of Adjust Yo Crown, a Black Woman.

4 thoughts on “Letter to the “Jennifers” Out There

  1. Read the letter and feel quite proud of the brilliant way you defended our case for “being by ourselves to heal ourselves”!!!! Outside interference is just that, interference!! So, away with it!! It’s OUR time!!! To GOD Be the Glory!!

    GOD Bless you, my sistah’, my soror! Dove Love!

    Soror Brenda Muhammad, Upsilon Nu Zeta Chapter, Lancaster, TX

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