Written By Vica., – Official Contributor of The Crowned Series

Everyone knows or should know, that to have a clear space is to have a clear mind. As spring quickly approaches, I have come to realize that my space/zen/paradise is in desperate need of attention. I find myself rummaging through clothes, books, papers, empty Amazon boxes every day to get to what I need. I have noticed that since this begun (a few months ago) I have debuted an extreme loss of motivation in almost every aspect of life. 

Yesterday evening, I reached a point of enlightenment and declared a new start.  I have realized that my paradigms are not aligned and this has caused an extreme obstacle in my drive. I learned about the different paradigms of one’s life in high school as apart of my leadership role in the Marching Band. We were made to read the book “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens” and complete its workbook and I have never been more grateful. In this book, certain common paradigms were described as self, school, work, love, enemies, etc. They are the principles in which we lead our lives. If one becomes more apparent than others, there is an imbalance which can disrupt one’s life entirely.

 “Before you’ll ever win in the public arenas of life, you must first win the private battles within yourself. All change begins with you.” (Sean Covey) This quote has stuck with me for years. One must master themselves before they can master anything else. The first step is to identify what areas you need to improve upon. I’ve focused more on social interactions rather than self-care. As much as I love being surrounded by many people, I need to make time for myself to decompress and recharge, if you will. 

When a person is given the chance to establish their principles and lead their life through the lens of their paradigms, they are then able to achieve great things. This shouldn’t be viewed as daunting but rather exciting. It is important to start off with small steps. This can turn into a snowball effect and can finish as a complete shift.

 First, change your outlook on life. As cliche as it may sound, look at the glass half full rather than half empty. Positivity breeds positivity. When the outlook changes, then your response to certain challenges become better in a sense that you say, “I can overcome this” rather than, “Why me?”. 

Next, find a passion project. Do something that makes you happy while simultaneously making others happy. For example, if you enjoy creating things ,you can make jewelry and sell it. This way, you are doing something you love while enhancing the beauty of others, all while making some COIN!

Lastly, keep it personal. If there is something that goes against your principles (values) avoid it at all costs. Doing so will save you from feeling off or “guilty” if you do something that goes against what you truly believe. Say no if you really don’t want to do something and treat yourself like you would treat your best friend. 

  With love,


Vica., Official Contributor of The Crowned Series

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